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Is Jesus My Boyfriend?

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Is Jesus My Boyfriend?

Something is wrong when I can sing a worship song to God and then turn to my wife with the same lyrics. Because, when I look at you, babe, “my heart turns violently inside of my chest,” and I feel like…

“I’m madly in love with you” “You are more beautiful than anyone ever” “There has never ever been anyone like you” “I want to hear your voice, I want to know you more” “I want to touch you, I want to see your face” “I’m desperate for you; I’m lost without you”

Is Jesus our cosmic boyfriend? These are all lyrics from actual worship songs, but they also give me some good material to romance my wife. Is this okay? Is our love for God an amped up version of the romantic love we have for our significant others?

Despite the sense we get from some of our worship songs, the answer is “No.”

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While the Bible does draw an analogy between Christ’s love for us and a husband’s love for his wife (Eph 5:22-25), it’s the self-giving sacrifice of Christ that defines and dictates the selfless, unconditional love that a husband should have for his wife (Eph 5:25). But this is quite different from emotionally driven, conditionally compelled, romantic love that lurks behind the idea of falling madly in love with your boyfriend. God doesn’t romance us, and we don’t romance God. God hasn’t fallen in love with us—he was compelled out of a relentless desire to love the unlovable, and He therefore died for us. And we don’t fall in love with God. Neither the phrase nor the concept is used in the Bible. We respond to his grace by picking up our cross and dying with him.

Despite the popularity of the phrase, the Bible never talks about us “falling in love with God,” and I would recommend not using the phrase. I know it’s popular. In fact, I sometimes slip up and say the phrase, since it’s so familiar. But the modern phrase “falling in love with” does not capture what the Bible means when it talks about loving God. The phrase “falling in love with” comes from the Elizabethan view of romance, which is foreign to the Bible. It refers to a highly emotionally and thoroughly conditional feeling toward someone else, usually based on attraction and the way they make you feel. Just Google the phrase “falling in love” and you’ll get some pretty sappy definitions that I certainly wouldn’t want to transfer to my posture toward God, and neither would Isaiah (Isa. 6). Even when spouses are commanded to love each other (Eph 5:25 and others), this love is all about selfless, sacrificial, unconditional commitment that’s governed by the cross and not by how the other person makes you feel.

Saying you “fall in love with God” is taking a 19th century concept and reading it back into the Bible. And it’s subtly dangerous, since it reads a conditional understanding of love back into the biblical concept of unconditional love. So let’s stick to theologically rich concept of biblical, agape love when speaking of God. And let’s not sing to our risen King as if he’s the boyfriend who never lets us down.

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Of course, every friendship will not contain the same depth of relational intimacy or commitment. Casual friends are inevitable and can be good, joy-filled relationships. However, my concern is that we use the term “friend” so willy-nilly these days that we have become unable to imagine something richer. There is a level of deep, biblical friendship that I fear has become totally lost in our modern, transient, superficially intimate context.

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